Ways to Support Others During the Festive Break
- Acknowledge Diverse Experiences: Understand that the festive season can mean different things to different people. While it might feel like a joyful time to you, others may experience it very differently.
- Show Understanding: Let them know you recognize this time of year can be challenging and that you’re there for them.
- Reassure Them: Remind them they’re not alone and that a lot of people find this season to difficult.
- Listen Without Judgment: Accept their feelings and give them space to express themselves.
- Identify Challenges: Gently ask what aspects of the season they find hard and what might help. For example, offer to help them plan for tough conversations or support their decision to avoid certain activities, like large gatherings or specific traditions.
- Be Inclusive: If they have responsibilities, such as caregiving, try to adapt plans so they can participate when possible.
- Be Mindful with Gifts: Consider whether a gift is appropriate. For example, receiving alcohol or food-related presents could result in complicated feelings for different people. Alternatives like shared experiences or spending time together can be more meaningful.
- Recognize Their Effort: Remember, that by vocalising their experiences they are not trying to dampen the festive mood. No one chooses to struggle during this time.
- Reach Out: Let people know that you’re thinking of them. A simple call, message, or visit can mean a lot to someone feeling lonely or overwhelmed.
- Care for Yourself: Supporting someone else can be emotionally taxing. Take time to talk to someone you trust if you feel affected and seek tips for self-care if needed.
- Friendsmas: Stat your own Christmas tradition and h5.ost a ‘Friendmas’ event before Christmas Day. You can exchange presents, watch Christmas films and make memories.
Remember: The pressure to appear cheerful during the festive season can be overwhelming for some, especially when they feel low or anxious.
Things to Avoid
- Making Assumptions: Don’t presume to know why this time of year is difficult for someone. There can be many reasons, and it’s okay if they don’t feel comfortable sharing.
- Intrusive Questions: Be mindful not to pry. Instead, let them share only what they’re comfortable with.
- Pushing Positivity: Avoid comments like “This is supposed to be a happy time” or “others have it worse.” These can feel dismissive, even if well-intended.
- Taking Rejection Personally: If they decline invitations or withdraw, it’s not about you. Mental health challenges, like anxiety or panic attacks, can make socializing tough. Reassure them that it’s okay to step back if needed.
- Financial Pressure: Avoid assuming what someone can afford. Consider more inclusive approaches, like setting a spending limit or exchanging homemade gifts.
- Food or Drink Pressure: Don’t pressure them to eat or drink more than they’re comfortable with and avoid comments on appearances or eating habits. This is especially important for individuals who have a complicated relationship with food.
References
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/christmas-and-mental-health/supporting-others-at-christmas/#ThingsToAvoid